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**sportrider** · 11-28-2007, 08:55 PM

I just found out yesterday that a friend of mine from works son committed suicide on Monday. He's not taking it well, as could be expected. he was 22 years old and, as I'm told, he was a good kid never in any trouble. the way I heard it he had just gotten a girlfriend who wasn't really liked. when his mom confronted him about her he ran into his room and shot himself in the head as his mom was watching. my friend got a call at work from the Police saying his son had shot himself and he needed to come home, when he asked how his son was they said he was still alive. when he got home all the cop said was "your son is dead, theres nothing else we can do here so were going to leave." leaving my buddy and his wife alone in there home. they didn't even send someone to clean up the mess, they left it for my friend. I feel horrible for him, he's the give the shirt off his back kinda guy. I wish there was something I could do but, I'm not sure what would help. maybe I shouldn't have posted this but, you guys are like my extended family so I thought I'd vent this out here.

**wrightme43** · 11-28-2007, 09:01 PM

Man I am sorry to hear that. I dont know what to say either.

**gmickey2001** · 11-28-2007, 09:12 PM

I am sure I would feel the same way you do. You want to help, but aren't really sure what to do. You want to say something but are also afraid to bring it up. Even acknowledging someone's grief seems like a violation of some sort when something horrible has happened in their life.

Thinking like you, I of course have no advice. But I think it's always good to put stuff out there. Typing it out helps you think through things. It does for me anyway.

Circe · 11-28-2007, 09:14 PM

So sorry to hear about your friends tragedy, I doubt there is anything you can do or say to them to help, but probably just being a good friend and available to listen is what they need. I cannot imagine the guilt the mom is feeling.

mikebike · 11-29-2007, 04:57 AM

So sorry to hear about this....

You should talk to him and be short and simple.

" I am sorry for your loss.... if there is anything you need help with ... I am here for you"

or something short and simple but lets him know you care...

or the same message in a card would work well too.

good luck

**Nelly** · 11-29-2007, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by mikenbern

So sorry to hear about this....

You should talk to him and be short and simple.

" I am sorry for your loss.... if there is anything you need help with ... I am here for you"

or something short and simple but lets him know you care...

or the same message in a card would work well too.

good luck

+1 with Mike. I have to break bad news to folks on a regular basis. Its really tough. People don't think straight. Say you sorry, your friend knows there is nothing more than that you can say. Skirting around the issue increases your stress levels and theirs. Is there some where else they could stay. Have they got any family near?
Why does this kind of terrible thing all ways happen just before X-mas.
Our thoughts are with them.

Neil

**jsteinb95** · 11-29-2007, 05:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mikenbern

So sorry to hear about this....

You should talk to him and be short and simple.

" I am sorry for your loss.... if there is anything you need help with ... I am here for you"

or something short and simple but lets him know you care...

or the same message in a card would work well too.

good luck

good post mike.

mikebike · 11-29-2007, 07:47 PM

well use the little credibilty giver you silly folks....

now back to the regular serious thread

11-28-2007, 08:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
sportrider NOT BANNED Join Date: May 2007 Location: EARTH Bike: 2007 Yamaha YZFR1 Posts: 2,631 Rep Power: 975 Member #127	A Friend of mine lost his son... I just found out yesterday that a friend of mine from works son committed suicide on Monday. He's not taking it well, as could be expected. he was 22 years old and, as I'm told, he was a good kid never in any trouble. the way I heard it he had just gotten a girlfriend who wasn't really liked. when his mom confronted him about her he ran into his room and shot himself in the head as his mom was watching. my friend got a call at work from the Police saying his son had shot himself and he needed to come home, when he asked how his son was they said he was still alive. when he got home all the cop said was "your son is dead, theres nothing else we can do here so were going to leave." leaving my buddy and his wife alone in there home. they didn't even send someone to clean up the mess, they left it for my friend. I feel horrible for him, he's the give the shirt off his back kinda guy. I wish there was something I could do but, I'm not sure what would help. maybe I shouldn't have posted this but, you guys are like my extended family so I thought I'd vent this out here. __________________ a work in progress...

11-28-2007, 09:01 PM	#2 (permalink)
wrightme43 Super Sock Puppet Administrator Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Bowling Green KY Bike: 07 FZ6 in Blue. Posts: 5,170 Rep Power: 10 Member #42	Man I am sorry to hear that. I dont know what to say either. __________________ Texas to update slogan from 'Don't Mess with Texas' to 'We Warned You' as homeowners gun down would-be burglars at record rate.

11-28-2007, 09:12 PM	#3 (permalink)
gmickey2001 Super Moderator Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Atascadero, CA Bike: 2006 Yamaha FZ6 Posts: 301 Rep Power: 10 Member #41	I am sure I would feel the same way you do. You want to help, but aren't really sure what to do. You want to say something but are also afraid to bring it up. Even acknowledging someone's grief seems like a violation of some sort when something horrible has happened in their life. Thinking like you, I of course have no advice. But I think it's always good to put stuff out there. Typing it out helps you think through things. It does for me anyway. __________________ Take no prisoners - Frolic with your enemies

11-29-2007, 04:57 AM	#5 (permalink)
mikebike just a moderator Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: North Central Florida Bike: FZ6 -- Blue Posts: 1,310 Rep Power: 20 Member #357	So sorry to hear about this.... You should talk to him and be short and simple. " I am sorry for your loss.... if there is anything you need help with ... I am here for you" or something short and simple but lets him know you care... or the same message in a card would work well too. good luck __________________ mike http://www.626mikebike.blogspot.com

11-29-2007, 07:47 PM	#8 (permalink)
mikebike just a moderator Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: North Central Florida Bike: FZ6 -- Blue Posts: 1,310 Rep Power: 20 Member #357	well use the little credibilty giver you silly folks.... now back to the regular serious thread __________________ mike http://www.626mikebike.blogspot.com

11-28-2007, 09:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
Circe Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Foster City, CA Bike: 2005 FZ6 Posts: 33 Rep Power: 5 Member #568	So sorry to hear about your friends tragedy, I doubt there is anything you can do or say to them to help, but probably just being a good friend and available to listen is what they need. I cannot imagine the guilt the mom is feeling.

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